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I'm going down the most pleasant wormhole (wormhole? rabbit hole?) with your work right now, such that I literally have one article open on my laptop (this one), and a different one opened on my phone at the same time (about autobiographical memory). I probably won't be able to properly respond here, because winter + exhaustion + delayed processing, but I'm feeling this really effervescent feeling reading your words. I relate often to many late-diagnosed writings, but I'm relating to yours at such a high percentage that it's almost giving me internal vertigo. This paired with your tremendous writing skills--it's not just that your writing is clear and direct; it's that you're crafting things with a ton of sophistication, such that the writing reads more effortless than it surely is. (It takes work to write as well as you do.)

Anyway, there's a signal going off in my brain in response to this part: "That’s the irony: what looks like contradictory hearing—partially deaf in one context, hypersensitive in another—is really the same mechanism at work. A brain that doesn’t know when to stop paying attention."

I'm almost certain I have notes, maybe across three different notebooks and digital documents, where I've been trying to track the way autistic experience can show up as extremes, such that I often feel like a walking contradiction. One example might be my own predilection for bluntness paired with the RSD that makes it hard, in certain situations, to be on the receiving end of such bluntness. (That example feels tricky, though, because of the likelihood that it has roots in trauma as well.) Another example might be my struggle with facial expressions. I've cultivated an intense practice over the years of nodding along, signaling (as much as I can) that I'm hearing the person, and this comes partly from my own struggle with trying to interpret what's happening in social situations, how I'm being perceived, etc. Such that I can struggle when I'm not on the receiving end of those nods, smiles, indicators--even though that affectlessness can itself be a trait of autism! I'm just so fascinated by these contradictions and extremes and, I suppose, some part of me is dreaming about writing something one day that maps them all out.

ANYWAY--this is not quite what you were talking about in that one teeny tiny moment, but it brought all this to mind and I'm bubbling over with enthusiasm for entering a dialogue with you. So here we are. My main point being: gosh I admire your work.

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