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Without looking it up, wasn't Jane Seymour married to King Hank 8?

I will look at pics others took of me at some event - like birthday parties - and it doesn't really seem real to me. I mean, I know that kid there is me, and there? isn't that one of my friends from 5th grade? When I look at old pics, I either don't remember a damned thing, or the photo makes me feel some sort of very vague memory recovery. Add maybe to this: I don't like looking at pics of myself. Never have. I don't like mirrors much, either.

Also: my sense of direction is horrid, but I will remember specific times when I got lost, probably because I reflected on the event. I realize I must have taken a wrong turn. I try to get back on track/find the way and it's not correct. Then: a sort of anxiety, even panic, which I suspect adds to the memory. Finally: I find the way. I have no problem asking strangers for directions.

I know there's GPS now. I prefer not to use it, which I think must sound perverse, given my admitted poor sense of direction. I make a physical map or a list of sequential moves I must make in order to get there, and I keep it on the passenger seat. I strongly identify with "that big maple tree" or "just past the Burger King" or "that old run-down Victorian" or "the really hideous off-ramp area" much more so than names of streets. Also: if there is a mass of large buildings as in big cities, and mountains, things "look" correct based on their relationship to these visual touchstones. Once I've been to a place, I remember how to get there, because it "looks this way when you go that way." But if I haven't taken that route for a few years, I will tend to forget it just enough to (probably) get lost at least a little bit.

Other minds: we can't know them, but we can infer from what they say and relate via perceptions and personal memory retrieval. I've long suspected most people have far better social memories than I do.

Thanks for your knowledge about social memory. About myself, my language tends to be more like "I think I'm the sort of person who..." rather than "I am the sort of person who..."

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Alys Hedd's avatar

I wrote a whole other comment about your post, and must not have pressed send!?

It said something like: sorry for jamming up your whole comment section 🤣 but this would explain why the only autobiographical memories I have are ones there are photos of - I might remember a few additional details about an event, other than what's in the photo, but not much.

Also, it explains why I'm terrible at picturing things like, what a room will look like when it's decorated, or with the furniture moved around. And why I'm no good at writing fiction.... I knew there was a reason 😜🤣

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